Teen Mom

So, I have decided that I need to blog about this show. I have mixed emotions about it, to be quite honest. Part of me thinks MTV, what the HECK are you thinking broadcasting this show?! And the other part of me is like, Gabrielle & Lil Martin, come sit and watch this trainwreck of a show so that you will make better choices when you get to their ages. As a mom, of a 9 year old GIRL & a teenaged BOY, I pray every day that they make the right decisions. Lord knows that they both see how parenting can be dificult. But then again, so did I, and I am here now.

Let me first start by saying, I was a teen mom. If I had to compare myself to any one of these teen moms, I would say I was the Maci. While I think she is the most well put together, she also seems to have the most support, which was my case. I will say that she has a better head on her shoulders at 19 then I did. While she 'sees the importance' of letting her son, Bentley spend time with his dad, I did not. I was selfish. But our situations are different for a lot of reasons. I held onto Gabrielle like she was mine and only mine. Thankfully, I have grown up, and I see that it IS important to allow those relationships. She literally goes out of her way for Ryan, baby's father, to have a relationship with their son. She says it best when she says she wishes she could "keep Ryan away from Bentley, but not Bentlety from Ryan". She is still young and a teenager. Thinks the sun rises and sets for her, and now her son. I do think of the 4 girls, she has her mess together. She still makes decisions that I'm like "Oh no, not that, dont do it". But she seems like she cleans it up nicely.

So I watch this show, religiously every Tuesday. Most nights, I have to pause and close my eyes and think "Should I watch any further?". The Gary & Amber saga, wears me out. Its so sad. I'm sure I am with a large portion of America when I say I think that baby should be taken away. I would take her in a hot second, she needs a home with love, and positivity. I have friends who literally CAN NOT get pregnant, who I have experienced heartbreak and tears, and frustration with over infertility. I cant fathom why there are good people, with good hearts, and loving relationships with their spouses and with God, that can't bring a life into this world. But yet there are 16 year old psychopaths who are abusive, verbally, emotionally, & worst of all physically, that can crank out these children like a baby factory. I think its just gut wrenching. In a lot of ways I feel sorry for Amber. I think she is the statistic that America likes to avoid, to turn a blind eye on. Teenage pregnacy can be devasting, or in my case it can turn out wonderfully. I think in Ambers case, it was devasting. Shame on MTV for exploiting her and her child. But if the cameras werent there, what would become of their situation? And what will happen to their baby? Why oh WHY, does Gary's mother allow her Grandchild to be surrounded by such hatred? If I ever stepped out of line with my mom, she would turn, and walk away. And she would make sure that Gabrielle wasnt in that enviornment. I mean, I wasnt a 'bad' person, but I had my Farrah moments :) Pray for Leah, and Gary, and most importantly Amber.

Farrah. I have a love/hate relationship with this girl. First season, I couldnt STAND her. I thought she was ridiculous. But this season, she has opened up about the loss of Sophia's dad. And the complete lack of support and allowance for her to grieve his loss is just simply heartbreaking. I think she is a wonderful mother. She is always put in these horrific situations. I hope that Sophia's Daddys family steps in and takes an active role in that babies life. She needs to know where she comes from. So, to see where she is now, explains a lot about her from where she was then, in the first season. Dont you just want to reach out and hug her? Her mom needs to be smacked. Worst. Parenting. Advice. Ever. "Lets not tell him he is going to be a father". Then he dies, tragically. "Now the problem is out of the way". OMG, lady. Your daughter is distraught! She just lost the love of her life, not to mention your granddaughters FATHER!? She has a screw loose, for sure. Thank God, Farrah is able to be responisble and take care of herself and her baby, on her own. To me, she needs to be the biggest example to American teenagers. Not ALL parents are supportive of Teenagers having babies. Nor do they help out, like Farrahs mom. Farrah works, she goes to school, and she deals with the loss on her own, and she is a good mom. Love her, and I pray for her. Because I think she is wonderful, and I hope she finds herself a wonderful partner.

Caitlyn & Tyler. Wowsers. Strength and maturity are all that come to mind when I think of them. How difficult a choice they made. But what a wonderful choice. They have given their daughter the second most precious gift in life. They gave her a chance. That sweet little girl, is happy & thriving. I know that they both struggle with giving thier daughter to another couple, you see if on their faces episode after episode. But when you see how happy Carly is, and how she is thriving, you cant help but cry in happiness. I dont know any teenagers that would stop in the middle of chaos, and think about someone else over themselves. And that is what sets Caitlyn and Tyler apart. There is a special place in my heart for these kids. My biggest hope is that Caitlyn & Tyler are able to stay together, grow up, mature, and accomplish many goals. So that they can truly be an inspiration to struggling teenagers. Poor Caitlyn, her mother is evil. And she is if anything, reassurance that these two made the best decision in giving Carly a better life. God Bless this family :)

Okay, so I got it all off my chest. I feel better. I think this show is educational. I dont let Gabrielle watch it because quite frankly i think some parts are inappropriate. I think they glamourize teen pregnancy in away. I want my kids to know that I was a teen mother, I struggled at times, and that life changed for me. I didnt live out a normal college life, I worked, went to school, and raised a toddler. And dealt with a whole lot of drama along the way. I want more for my kids.

Thanks for reading :)
Love ya bunches XOXO